Hva er narsissisme – viktige ord og uttrykk

For å forstå hva er narsissisme, kan det være nyttig å kjenne til noen viktige ord og uttrykk. Og i dag får dere et innlegg om nettopp dette. 

Den internasjonalt anerkjente gestaltterapeuten Elinor Greenberg Ph.D, CGP. (se mere info nederst i innlegget) som har spesialfelt narsissisme, har publisert mange opplysende fagartikler om hva er narsissisme. Og i dag gir jeg dere utdrag fra en slik artikkel med viktige ord og uttrykk, og som kan være nyttig å lære seg.

Hva er narsissisme

Greenberg sier at det er flere viktige ord og uttrykk som gir gode beskrivelser, og som kan være nyttige å lære seg. Disse uttrykkene er:


Narcissistic gaslighting occurs when people with narcissistic personality disorder refuse to admit that they are wrong or have done something bad to their mate. Even when they are caught in the act, they will often try to convince the other person that he or she is paranoid and is imagining the whole thing.

Flying Monkeys

Flying monkeys are the slang term for any group of people that the narcissist enlists as allies to persecute someone that the narcissist hates. To gain their support, the narcissist makes up lies that portray the other person as evil and the narcissist as the real victim.

Going “Gray Rock”

If you are involved with a narcissist whom you cannot avoid, many people advise going gray rock.  This means that your manner during your interactions with the narcissist is as boring, unemotional, and neutral as you can manage.  Essentially, you become as uninteresting as a gray rock

Videre sier Greenberg dette om disse uttrykkene for narsissisme

Love bombing

The term love bombing is now used to describe narcissists’ over-the-top courtship tactics when they are chasing someone that they are trying to seduce or make fall in love with them. It is wildly romantic behavior that includes constant praise, promises of undying love, thoughtful little gifts, late-night texts, and anything and everything that the narcissist thinks will secure the love of the person he or she has chosen.  This intense positive attention is often accompanied by pressure for a quick commitment.  Unfortunately, once the narcissist actually secures the person’s love, thelove-bombing generally stops and is eventually replaced by devaluation or indifference.


The term hoovering has now been extended to refer to a narcissist’s attempts to suck a discarded mate back into a relationship by saying and doing things that the ex would find irresistible.

Narcissistic Supplies

The term narcissistic supplies, or supply for short, describes anything and anyone that narcissists use to regulate their self-esteem.  The purpose of narcissistic supplies is to enhance the narcissist’s sense of being special.

Narcissistic Word Salad

The term narcissistic word salad is essentially a misuse of an important psychological term. Instead of referring to an involuntary verbal sign of a severe mental illness, such as schizophrenia, it is being used as a slang term for a type of narcissistic speech that is purposefully confusing. Listeners find narcissistic word salad extremely frustrating because the narcissist is using circular reasoning, outright lies, denial, or mischaracterizations of past events to avoid being wrong or having to take responsibility for something. 

Greenberg sier dette om hva er narsissistisk familie system?

The Narcissistic Family System: The Golden Child & The Scapegoat

In families led by a powerful parent with a narcissistic personality disorder, the children in the family are sometimes assigned specific roles and are treated quite differently from each other. This is because people with narcissistic personality disorder lack whole object relations and cannot see their children realistically as having a blend of both good and bad traits. One child may become the recipient of the narcissistic parent’s all-good projections and is seen as perfect, while one or more of the other children may be seen as all-bad. In some families, these roles are reassigned according to whomever is the parent’s favorite that day.  This sometimes fosters competition among the children to please the parent and be seen as the good one.

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Om Elinor Greenberg:

Elinor Greenberg, Ph.D., CGP, is an internationally renowned Gestalt therapy trainer who specializes in teaching the diagnosis and treatment of Borderline, Narcissistic, and Schizoid adaptations in a lively and practical way. She has trained psychotherapists in her approach in the US, Norway, Sweden, Wales, England, Russia, and Mexico. 

Dr. Greenberg is an Associate Editor of Gestalt Review, a faculty member of the New York Institute for Gestalt Therapy, and a faculty to the Gestalt Center for Psychotherapy and Training where she designed and teaches a post-graduate program on the diagnosis and treatment of Borderline, Narcissistic, and Schizoid Adaptations.


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